I don't do it for them
I was talking to my housemate about giving head, and she seemed to think of it as a luxury. "It's not something I do often if I can help it."I politely agreed with her.
"It's just not fun, and the hair... ugh."
"Seriously," I agreed, for this is the one drawback for me. "What are they thinking?"
"You have to keep reminding them to trim, because they just forget."
Forget? Seriously? "How can you forget?"
"They just do. With my ex, I would quit maintaining myself when he quit, to try to get him to do it. And he was fine with it. It was infuriating!"
How could she quit shaving? I wondered. It just didn't make sense to me.
When boyfriends go out of town or relationships end, I hear women say things like "At least I don't have to shave my legs." I have to wonder if they are actually glad to be rid of this burden because for me, even though I don't see my boyfriend two thirds of the time, I never stop shaving. I might wait a day longer than I would if he was here, and I don't particularly enjoy doing it, but shaving isn't really something I do for a man. When I started, I wasn't thinking about how my shaved legs would look to the middle school boys, it was just an expected thing. And it still is: it's really a part of me now.
Thoughts?
posted by myboyfriendiscrazy @ 3:07 PM
20 Comments:
I like having smooth legs. I fucking HATE shaving. I know I really should wax so I wouldnt have to put up with the burden of shaving every few of days (and I only shave about every 3 days...I have fine blonde hair so I can get away with it. But even then!).
Then the thing is, I don't want to wait two weeks so that my leg hairs can get long enough for me to wax them because then it's just gross for the guy.
But yeah, when I was single, the only time I would shave was if I was wearing a skirt. Otherwise,phfff.
I shave daily. Absolutely everywhere. Just because I can't stand the feeling of having hair on my legs, underarms, or downstairs.
Mate or no mate, that stuff just has to be done.
I shave less frequently too when I don't have anyone to shave for.
I love not shaving - it's such a pain in the ass if you have sensitive skin. I've gone months without and my boyfriend doesn't care either way. It just makes special occasions more special (you know, when I need to shave because I'm wearing a skirt when we go out).
I must be doubly lucky as my boyfriend remembers to trim on his own.
Yeah I would always shave, partner or not.
I do it for the people sitting opposite me on the train.
yeah. do it because u want to not because of someone else... cant agree with u more...
I do it for both him and me. For him, I'd shave everyday. For me, 4-5 days a week. It feels gross and uncomfortable to let it grow out too much (and becomes a bigger pain to shave again later), but it does irritate the skin to shave everyday.
I doubt that it was a woman who originated the idea of shaving the legs, or anywhere else. It was probably some stuffy oppressive white dude...
Now over the years, it has become customary for women to shave their legs, but in my experience, I don't think a lot of women really care if their legs are shaven or not. They'd rather keep it natural, if it weren't for this societal norm to shave it off.
Just like a bra. Not invented by a woman, and from experience, not very comfortable. But Victoria Secrets is still in business. Why? Because men are pervs.
I shave a lot.
Not for the guy.
But because once I'm done shaving.
I feel cleaner
and I like the feeling, but that would be the only reason i do it
I shave my legs bacause I like the feeling when you get into bed afterwards!! My boyfriend doesn't care either way!
Yeah...DEFINATELY shave on the regular...I simply love being smooth all over. Now when I was married...Heh totally different story. As punishment I often did not shave...Sounds kinds stupid huh, like cutting off your own nose to spite your face...
I'm european :)
Men don't care, infact most hate "smoothness", especially downstairs.
bliss.
I shave every few days, but that's cuz I do a lot of activity where bare legs are involved...swimming, dancing. I also hate hairy legs. The armpits about every other day. Downstairs, I go Brazilian (even when there's no boyfriend). I want to be soft and smooth for ME, not some guy.
My friend's getting a laser hair removal downstairs. I think that's weird. Even if I wax it all off, I still want to know I can grow it.
Great job, getting none of that right.
It's funny, I will let my leg hair grow but maybe because it is blonde-ish and fine it's not really noticeable. That is, once it is past the stubble stage. I hate stubble.
On the other hand, armpits always have to be shaved, whether I'm alone on a desert island or not. Ew.
I think it just comes down to personal preference. I hate shaving but WILL do it when I'm with a man. Oddly enough, even if he said he hated shaved legs I would still shave though. I don't mind touching fuzzy legs but I would never let anyone else do it.
armpits: as soon as they start showing
legs: with someone: all the time shaved...without someone: summer all the time...winter when I feel like it...like fuzzymuffin says...ur sheets feel good after u shave..
downstairs: LOL...maintenance as needed...
I like being smooth - but shaving is a pain in the arse so there is no way in hell that I'm going through shaving everyday if there's no one there to appreciate it. If I'm wearing a skirt I'll do it though.
Ok I have a serious issue with body hair on my body.. nope, nada. Oh and the hubby, he knows in no uncertain terms if he has not kept up his "manscaping" there is NO way I will go near there. I wax the cotchie and I have been doing in for 5 years so it BARLEY grows back, but my legs, arms(yes I shave my arms) and pits get done everyday... ewww body hair. Its just a thing with me..
wanderlusting - Agreed... plus waxing is expensive.
the ambiguous blob - I don't think I could manage daily, especially because my skin is really sensitive.
grizzbabe - Question is, how much less?
monicker - jealous on the boyfriend front!! Boyfriend needs to take notes.
lilac stripe - I'm glad I'm not the only one!
memoirs of a sheila - oooo sexy
iwan - Good :)
strange bird - exactly!
rune - Based on my own opinions and some of the comments on this post, I think women DO prefer to shave their legs regardless of overt male influence. Not that we came up with the idea, but now it's just part of who we are.
sipwine - Yeah... it's supposed to make you feel sexy when you're with a guy, but unless it's a special occasion, I don't do much differently than I would anyway.
fuzzymuffin - Sooo true. Or when putting lotion on smooth legs as opposed to stubbly ones.
aspiring goddess - As punishment... but did he notice?
cynthiaiacd - I think men care less than the (American) women do... which in my opinion is a good thing.
s* - Yeah, I wouldn't want to laser away down there either... even though I doubt I'll grow it out any time too soon. Strange how that works..
julia - Huh?
c'est la vie!! - Unfortunately, my armpit stubble starts showing pretty quickly and it's hard (& sometimes painful) to shave it every day.
m - Not every day, but often?
random musings of my life - Haha that's a tad extreme, but to each her own!!
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